That Mom In The Pick-Up Line Who Makes You Feel Insecure? Talk To Her

Next time we feel like making an assumption about another mom’s life, we’ll think twice

Motherhood can often leave us feeling like the worst versions of ourselves. Not just because we’re tired, over-touched, and have our patience tested constantly. But because sometimes, we feel like we’ve lost our mojo. Especially when we see the moms who look like they really have their shit together when we don’t.

Lucky for us, popular mom blogger Constance Hall is ready to speak some truth when it comes to “those” moms, and how they make us feel.

In her latest viral post on Facebook, Hall gets real about motherhood, our insecurities, and why making assumptions doesn’t benefit anyone.

She opens up by describing a mom she sees regularly in the school pick-up line. We all know a mom like the one she talks about: perfect hair, clean, stylish outfit, nice car, not a “mum tum” to be seen. The type of mom who looks like a walking Pinterest board.

“There I was, with my tits out breast feeding my babies, smelling like dried milk, matted hair, a puffy face from a morning in tears, no shoes and a partial bogan accent,” Hall writes.

“It was like she was put on this earth to amplify my insecurities.”

Making snap judgments about other people — especially other moms — does nothing to make ourselves feel better or improve our own lives in the long run. But sometimes, when we’re feeling especially crummy, we can’t help but compare ourselves.

“So I did what a lot of women do and I tried to instigate a ‘chat’ about her to another mum, partly out of intrigue and partly hoping to make my feral self feel better,” Hall said.

“But this other mums advice hit me with a big reality check.

“Talk to the woman not about her.”

Now there’s a swift gut punch into reality. Talk to the woman, not about her. It’s a chastening sentiment to be sure, but what a lesson we could all benefit from learning.

Hall said she decided to chat up the “perfect” mom one day, and found out that — gasp — she’s human just like the rest of us. She struggles, just like the rest of us. She worries about her kids and keeping her ship afloat just like the rest of us.

“She is one of the most inspiring women I know,” Hall wrote.

Hall, who we can always count on to be perfectly candid and blunt about her own self-proclaimed messiness and chaos, is now sharing her newfound wisdom.

You know, because when we assume things, we tend to make an “ass out of u + me.”

“So now that I’m at a new school, I know that a lot of folks have their opinions on me these days and unfortunately a lot of the gossip has gotten back to me, I’d like to remind mums everywhere to…

“Talk to the woman not about her.”