As a mother of two donor babies this makes me a bit ill. Of course my dh is on the birth certificates but in any case, there would be no way in hell I would go after the donors if we were that hard off.
And one of the donors has a distant kind of role in the little one's life!
NoDramaMama said:My first concern is what @beam said. How sad that a few people could ruin the gift of sperm donation for future couples!! I think it will decline & that's such a loss.
My first concern is what @beam said. How sad that a few people could ruin the gift of sperm donation for future couples!! I think it will decline & that's such a loss.
This made the Yahoo news and the comments made me want to vomit!
There were comments along the lines of not trusting lesbians & this being why same sex couples should not have babies but my personal fave was from some bitchgoblet that said anyone who gets a baby from a container of sperm is unfit to be a mother.
Yes, because getting drunk and getting an unwanted child and not knowing who the baby daddy is or fucking multiple men makes you more fit of a mother cause that's the way the good lawd intended.
PDXcoco said:@momtomany74Can I just say that I love the term "bitchgoblet"!
@momtomany74Can I just say that I love the term "bitchgoblet"!
Newb said: PDXcoco said:@momtomany74Can I just say that I love the term "bitchgoblet"!Ditto. And fuck that noise. Everyone that wants a child and can provide a stable and loving environment deserves to have a child. I hate how this is turning into a debate over whether or not same sex couples are fit to have children. To clarify, the debate is not here at SM, I am referring to the public domain.
Haha.. Yeah, I was refering to the comments under the articles online as well, not SM.
I spent thousands on the sperm bank concieved one child, miscarried two others, and threw a lot of $$ away on negative cycles, insem kits, etc.
Then my friend (who is also a known donor) stepped in and I have a beautiful little almost one year old son, and he has a handsome little half brother about 25 minutes down the road. All for the cost of instead cups and gas to drive into the city.
He's done donating now anyways, unless me and his other recipient want another baby or if he and his husband (he's a gay man) want to have a baby some day. He has a sort of 'open adoption' 'family friend' role in our lives. And even that isn't extremely common in these sort of cases.
Like others have said, known donors (the frozen anon sperm bank donors are exempt from this sort of thing) will now be discouraged from donating :( And sometimes people like me and the other donor recipient I know reach our limit financially on the sperm banks... So. Very. Sad.