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scared to even post this after the last discussion but here it goes anyway
  • Jojo2000
    Posts: 167Guest
    I officially hate Christmas....i wish this month would just be over with already...except for new years eve since my ds will turn 8 and we will watch the ball drop together! Really wish my mom was here she would make things better....holidays suck without her
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,307Member
    Big hugs lady!! im here for you if you would like to talk!!
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • TorturedbyTWINSTorturedbyTWINS
    Posts: 1,159Member
    Sooo sooo sorry!!   >:D< >:D<
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,049Member
    A non snarky hug ! Holidays can suck when the ones we love aren't there.
    " Wibbly wobbly timey wimey ......." The Doctor
    " I'm a leafe on the wind..watch how I soar ." Wash :((
    " Oh the wall had it comming.' Sherlock Holmes
    yea I am geek !!
  • Lakegirl34
    Posts: 1,753Member
    This is my first Chrismas since my dad died in August. I understand how you feel. I'm rewriting the holiday this year-turning down a lot of parties, not doing a lot of shopping.im keeping my focus on me, ds and husband, and it's helping. Hugs to you.
  • Dragonbabyx3Dragonbabyx3
    Posts: 1,137Member
    Keeo the focus on your family like @Lakegirl34 said. Celebrate her memory, not her death.  It's hard losing a parent, no matter how old you are.  It's going to be rough for awhile, But we are here for you if you need to vent or need someone to talk to.  If you want you can PM me.  I am usually available to talk!  Hugs!
  • sunnymommasunnymomma
    Posts: 2,241Member
    @bigheartedlady Im in the same boat except I lost my Daddy when I was 14 5 days before Christmas. It just plain sucked the joy outta Christmas for me after everything we went through with him medically since I was 11. I have never again enjoyed Christmas or the holidays, I suck it up enough for DD, but she understands this is a tough time for me and that I'm not going to pretend to be overcome with joy and magic and wonderous delight. In my house we dont lie. I miss my Daddy oh so very much and nothing will ever replace him. 
    “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
    ― John Lennon
  • gramalibbygramalibby
    Posts: 2,625Member
    Sending love hugs at this hard time
  • TheHeadacheslayer
    Posts: 2,752Member
    @Bigheartedlady no one should give you any hassle over your feelings! I hated Christmas for a long time after losing my grandpa.

    I do love Christmas but I hate all the stupid crap that goes with it.

    Enjoy the time with your family, and only do what you want to sweetheart. ((((HUGS)))))
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,139Member
    Why on earth would you be afraid to post this?  My dad passed 7 years ago in July, and I've missed him every single day since, but never more so than at Christmas.  It was his favorite holiday.  He used to love to torture us about opening presents until he was ready to play "Santa" and pass them out.  I really isn't the same with somebody different handing out packages on Christmas Eve.  I don't like it, and it always seems to be about what my mother's husband & his family wants/likes.  He doesn't like seafood, so we can't do our traditional Sicilian/Catholic Christmas Eve.

    Oh well, sorry, didn't mean to steal your thread, I just know what it feels like to miss someone at Christmas.  I miss him even more since dd was born, knowing how much he'd love spoiling her rotten...though I gotta admit, I'm not sure I'd miss the spoiled rotten part. ;-)
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • ChickieChickie
    Posts: 129Member
    My Mom died 9.14 this year. I want to pull a blanket over my head and hide until 2013 at the very least.

    Big hugs to you.
    sometimes karma needs a nudge
  • Matt115
    Posts: 789Member
    Hugs to all those without their parents this season. Sorry to hear.
  • HestiaHestia
    Posts: 212Member
    Same boat too..first Christmas with both my brother and 10 yo nephew....want the holidays to piss off except for the other kids
  • Jojo2000
    Posts: 167Guest
    Thanks everyone...just needed to let it out.....im sorry that there are so many that know this pain.....i stuggle everyday to try to have a good day.....ptsd and social anxiety suck. I want my life back. I want to be normal again annd want to celebrate with my kids.....i cant catch a break...i posted about not having Christmas and then someone from my neighborhood dropped of a $250 Walmart gift card i was so excited for the kids.....well i went to walgreens to pick up prescriptions and when i came back home someone had stolen my wallet out of my purse.....so now they have the gift card my debit card my check book my id and cant call the bank until monday :(....i really need to catch a break before i break
  • ChickieChickie
    Posts: 129Member
    Most banks have a line for reporting your debit card/checks as stolen even if it's outside of normal business hours. You might have to navigate their phone menu to find it.
    sometimes karma needs a nudge
  • Peace
    Posts: 2,080Member
    @bigheartedlady, Walgreen's has *great* security cameras!
    Call them & tell them what happened, they'll review the footage!
    They can even match the person to a name if the person made a purchase there.
    Good luck!

    And yes, call your bank. Also call the person who bought the gift card...they can get it cancelled & replaced from where they got it.
  • kittykisses80kittykisses80
    Posts: 1,014Member
    It is tough my mom died from cjd and it was hard watching her deteriorate slowly from that disease. She's been gone 3yrs i miss her a lot and now my ds14 is gone too. It's hard you just keep your faith and memories close by. ~hugs~
  • gramalibbygramalibby
    Posts: 2,625Member
    Blessing , and many hugs
  • Peace
    Posts: 2,080Member
    The person doesn't even have to go to Walmart...
    They should just call the number here: http://help.walmart.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/180/~/lost-or-stolen-walmart-gift-cards
  • Jojo2000
    Posts: 167Guest
    The police were called and Walgreens is working with them.....i found the number for my bank to cancle my debit card but have to wait until monday to cancel checks....and there isn't much i can do about the gift card because i dont know who it was...it was in a card taped to my door and said merry Christmas from ur neighborhood santa....i just hope whoever has my checks don't try to use them...
  • Jojo2000
    Posts: 167Guest
    Thank u all for kind words and trying to help i sure do appreciate it...you are all amazing
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    omg! thats awful! How did someone steal your wallet? Did your house get broken into??
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • Jojo2000
    Posts: 167Guest
    I was at walgreenss... i went there to get prescriptions...and somehow someone tookk it out of my purse...camera shows a girl walking behingld me i dont know how i didn't feel her grab it....the police and walgreens r trying to figure out who it is...she left right afyer it happened so she didn't purchase anything she left her cart the isle over....its crazy and sucks big time but hopefully they figure out who it is....just sucks for my kiddos but we r going to do some baking and donate r time at the mission ...they are only 5 and almost 8 my sons bday is new years eve.....thanks to scary mommy he will have a bday present ....they hade go watch the tape to see if i possibly knew her....its crazy how quick it happened
  • Lulu
    Posts: 279Member
    @BigHeartedLady if you have any neighbors that you know you might want to ask around...if you wait on it, the person who stole it might use it and exhaust the funds.
  • Jojo2000
    Posts: 167Guest
    I asked around but noone knew anything about it ....totally sucks....sorry my lil men momma let u down again
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,307Member
    Im so sorry my kids christmas is falling though the cracks again too luckly we have family close by that are willing to help suddenly. i think they thought i was bluffing when i said the kids werent going to have much of a christmas..
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • RDunhamRDunham
    Posts: 108Member
    So sorry for all you're going through. Hugs and hope things get better.
  • karzeroookarzerooo
    Posts: 11Member
    *Hugs to all!*  I am kind of glad the holidays are over too though. <3
    On a mission to spread awesomeness wherever I go and help people reach their goals to live a happy, healthy and fulfilling life!
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  • RosamundiRosamundi
    Posts: 1,094Member
    You made it through to the other side!!!!!! No more Christmas for a whole year!!!!!
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