Any plus sized scary mommies out there?
  • cheshirecheshire
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    I'm a big girl, I weigh 200+ lbs (I hate looking at the scale so I just don't) and I'm only 5'2. I'm not one that carries it well. My weight has yo yo'd a lot in my life, I've been as little as 115 lbs and as big as 250 lbs. I go through stages in my life where I am so motivated and I eat right and exercise for a year or two then just gradually stop and then give up entirely and sky rocket up. Right now is tough, I work full time at a completely sedentary job and have a 8 mo ds so its hard for me to find the time to exercise. Eating right is something that I need to do but am having trouble motivating myself to do it. Any other mommies or daddies like this out there? Not really looking for advice, just would like to "meet" others out there like me :-)

  • JustAConfusedMamaJustAConfusedMama
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    I'm a big ole scary mommie.  I'm nearing 300 pounds.  It's the highest I've ever been, but I been 200 + since my teen years.  I know I need to lose weight, but it's hard to give up the things I know are causing it like my soda.  I had cut it out really well while I was pregnant and after pregnancy and I lost like 30 pounds, went back to work started drinking soda again and here i am.  Plus my stress and depression eating doesn't help.  So you are not alone.
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  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    Yep, I could have wrote that word for word except for the 8 month old.
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • cheshirecheshire
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    @dolphinlover26 soda isn't my problem, my problem is cheese and carbs. And of course the fact that I love food :-)

    @PurpleFlowers Good to know I'm in good company

  • KrabbyKay
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    I loooove food. Every kind. I'm not even picky. I'm 200# as well but 5'10" so I have a lot of places to stash it. It's still fat. I'm still a marshmallow. Gross in a swimsuit, unmentionable naked. I have the worst time losing weight. I never had to worry about it till I got to be 30ish, and ohhhhhh myyyyyy. My lifetime of horrible eating habits bit me in my fat ass. I hate exercise for the sake of exercise. The fun kind like hockey is good, but I blew out my hip being the goalie :-((  I can still play but veeeerrryyyy carefully. I don't much these days. I can swim, but they don't let you in your clothes, so that's kind of embarrassing. The other things I will do, don't make me less fat. You know what I call it? Apocalypse preparations! I will survive cold, hunger, plague, trauma, better than you skinny bitches with no reserves so HA!!! Survival of the fattest!
  • sidsmommy3sidsmommy3
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    I don't eat well....ate too much during the divorce....ack.

    But, I am 5'7 so it hides.  I consider myself voluptuous.....:D
    Mary :-)

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  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    Me too. I just never got around to losing my baby weight (my DS is 8 years old). I'm short too, just below 5'2. And at 250lbs, I swear I feel like Violet from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory most of the time! Food is yum, exercise is boring and I can barely remember to brush my hair, let alone schedule exercise. I'm pretty screwed lol
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  • cheshirecheshire
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    @KrabbyKay Apocalypse preparations, hahaha, I'll remember that. and that's awesome you play hockey!! I am not nearly coordinated enough to ice skate that well. I like to bike but I don't really live in a bike friendly place... and I also like to swim but like you, I really don't want to be seen in a bathing suit :-)

     

  • cheshirecheshire
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    @Dovahkiin I didn't gain that much weight when I was pregnant but I gained a bunch of weight afterwards. My ds was a fussy baby and I stress ate like a ravenous horse.
  • kittykisses80kittykisses80
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    Plus sized mommy here. Hate it. Wish my mouth was surgically sewed shut so i could lose the weight..always wondered what it would be like to be skinny. *sigh* well i gave up real pop tears ago i only drink like coke zero or any store brand like that. My issue is my horrible sweet tooth. Think my new years resolution ( if the world doesn't end before that) is to cut out sweets except for 5 days a month, i need me some chocolate than.lol
  • kittykisses80kittykisses80
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    Tears=years
  • wifeofanerd2012wifeofanerd2012
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    yeah i am big too.

  • cheshirecheshire
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    @kittykisses80 I've always felt that food is one of the hardest addictions to master, smoking or drugs you can quit cold turkey and just keep it out of your life but food is always around and you have to eat to survive. So its like telling an alcoholic, "you can have one drink every 4 hours." And I have a sweet tooth too, I have a horrible habit of thinking I have to have chocolate every day.  
  • cheshirecheshire
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    @wifeofanerd2012 what a beautiful baby belly! sigh, makes me miss being pregnant. But I know how you feel, I looked at myself in the mirror the other night, like really looked at myself, without sucking in... and I looked almost 8 mo pregnant. I took family pictures a few weeks ago and I swear I looked like a manatee, you know, also known as a SEA COW. But I refuse to not be in the photo's. I want my son to know that I was there, even if I was horribly out of shape.
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    @cheshire yeah, I didn't gain too much when I was pregnant. Around 25lbs. But a few months before DS turned 2, I got the Implanon put in (birth control) and gained nearly 50 pounds in Y months. I never really lost it :(
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  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    I totally get the sea cow photos :((
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  • cheshirecheshire
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    @Dovahkin Is that the arm implant? Did you leave it in or did you have them take it out?
  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
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    I'm 6 foot tall and well, I weigh a lot more then I care to admit. I'm a big girl. I love food. A lot. The addiction to food is over powering at times. I have the best of intentions to eat better and work out more, but the donuts and chocolate pie are calling my name!!!! Plus I have a horrible addiction to Coke, whole bunch of empty calories there. SIGH!


  • RuralRebellionRuralRebellion
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    I've always been overweight (typically around 185, I'm 5'7), but I was curvy and still attracted a lot of attention from good looking guys.  But I've gained a lot more weight in the last few years.  I don't blame it all on DD, I blame it mostly on DH because he was a chef, and came with a car (I used to walk or bus everywhere).  The pregnancy definitely left me with a belly that I never had though.  No thanks to a c-section I guess.  Thankfully DH has always had a bit of a fetish for chubby girls, so he swears up and down (and his internet porn previews confirm) that I'm still sexy to him lol
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  • cheshirecheshire
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    @RuralRebellion I feel ya on the bless/curse on having a hubby that cooks well. Both dh and I love to cook and dh works at a high end brick oven pizza joint. So we eat a lot of really good pizza with the occasional salad loaded with cheese (I'm a cheese addict!). I also used to walk and ride my bike every where when I lived in Portland OR but now I live in central AR. No bike paths or public trans here, you have to have a car to get anywhere. And my dh likes the big girls too so I feel comfortable with him. I know he thinks I'm sexy no matter what.
  • Bakerface
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    I'm plus size! I would love to drop some weight but that means dropping my fork and well I'm not ready for that yet so here I am with my huge ass.
  • cheshirecheshire
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    @misstressheidi707 I have the best intentions too, it seems like every weekend I buy my last "bad" dinner and just pig out. I try really hard for a few days and then get busy and it falls to the wayside. Then I buy some ben & jerry's.
  • Lakegirl34
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    I'm plus size and pregnant, so right now I'm in the fat, pregnant, and waddling. This is so sad to admit, but there was a time I met criteria for anorexia in my teens and early 20's and I miss being on the opposite site of the Eating Disorder spectrum. Sick I know; that's why I stay in therapy. I wish I could be one of those women who accepts herself as is.
  • Ashdawn684Ashdawn684
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    I'm plus size too I'm 5"7' so I can hide some but I am 200+ also eeek I've never said it out loud or admitted to it openly!! I have been big since I hit puberty I lost some back in high school but then met my now DH an the years crept away And the pounds just kept adding on. I just have no motivation
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  • cheshirecheshire
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    @Lakegirl34 yup I was there too when I was a teenager. I would see how long I could go with only eating a few bites a day. I wish weight was like hair, everyone has hair, everyone's is different and thats ok no one really cares. I'm getting better at accepting myself and forgiving myself for gaining so much. But some days it sucks. I hope you get closer to self acceptance too! ((hugs))
  • cheshirecheshire
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    @Ashdawn684 It can be liberating to openly admit your weight to strangers huh? At least you're in a safe place where no one will judge you >:D<
  • Ashdawn684Ashdawn684
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    @cheshire yes it's like sharing a dirty little secret
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  • PJSaregreatPJSaregreat
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    Yep, I'm a big girl...always have been and, most likely, always will be...
  • Quietmom
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    I feel like I'm plus sized but I've lost over 100 pounds so I'm working on it. Ill join in because I've been there
    Like a river and a waterfall, a strong person channels their own path...
  • PJSaregreatPJSaregreat
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    Way to go, @WildandFree! :)
  • LLBLLB
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    My weight has always fluctuated. I'm about 5'7"ish.

    I was about 140-145 as as teen and wore a size 8/10.

    Met my dh at 17 and ballooned to 240 and size 18/20 in the 5 years we dated. That was the biggest I had ever been and I hated it!

    Got married and lost 40 within 6 months bringing me down to 200.

    Then I got pregnant with my twins and gained 40 with them. Back at 240.

    Within a year of their birth I was down to 155 wearing a size 10! I did nothing to try and lose the weight!

    5 years later I was back up to 200 in a size 14/16.

    I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and 193. I actually lost 8 pounds in the first few months and have only gained 1lb back. I'm NOT complaining.

    There really is not much rhyme or reason for the gains or losses for me... I'm just a freaking yoyo apparently!
  • nessamommynessamommy
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    I'm 5'4", and 190ish right now. It sucks really bad, but my biggest issue is that I forget to eat because I am so busy with my my monsters, and school that I will go all day and realize at suppertime that I haven't eaten a thing, and I don't get enough exercize because honestly I'm lazy when I do get down time. 
    However, I've signed up for a no credit gym class next semester, and have met a friend who will do it with me, and the best thing is that she is basically the same size as me so I won't feel silly working out with all these young skinny people in there!
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  • Lakegirl34
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    Thanks @cheshire. You and your baby are
    beautiful!
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
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    I am 5'7" and atm weigh 194. This is the most I've ever weighed.
    In Jan 2010 I was 125.... its amazing how quick you can gain weight. Very upsetting. But I just love sweet tea

  • WebosMama
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    I am a big girl too. In high school I was 5'4" and weighed 120 pounds and thought I was a blimp. I would kill to weigh that again. I have dieted up and down for most of my adult life any where from 140-200. I lose then I gain. I just love food too much. Well, I eat my emotions covered in cheese sauce. I have accepted I will always be a big girl, I would just like to be a little bit smaller big girl. The good news is my husband thinks I am the sexist thing alive - don't get it, but I am not complaining.
  • PleaseSendPants
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    I've struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember.  170-180 in college and I looked HOT at that weight.  I was a size 10-12.  I'd KILL to be that weight again.  In 2000-2001 I had ballooned to 290.  THen between 2001-2002 I took up jogging, lost 100 lbs and ran a marathon.  I was a size 14-16 and looked hot as hell then too.  Then got stuck in an abusive relationship for 7 yrs and went back up to 280.  Then joined roller derby, got back down to 220 and gained the confidence to leave him.  Then got happily married and gained marriage weight along with DH.  Got up to 336 lbs!  Been exercising 5-6 times a week since March and have lost 50 lbs and it's been an ongoing process.  SO   MUCH   HARDER to lose weight now at 37 that it was 10-11 years ago and DH and I LOVE FOOD and going out to eat.  Portion size is my biggest hurdle.  Wish I could still smoke pot.  Was so much easier to exercise when I smoked pot.

  • IGotAMod
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    I'm 5'3" ... and about 260ish. Not totally sure, but that's close enough. It sux. Before I got pregnant I was 150 and felt fat but really wasn't. When DD was born, I had ballooned to 220. I lost 10 lbs after she was born, that was all. By the time she was 7 I got down to 199; I have never seen a number in the 100's since ...
  • boring_nameboring_name
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    5'4" and over 300lbs.. yup.. I'm there... My high weight was just shy of 400lbs (EEK)... let me see... sodapop, bread, sugar... those are my downfalls.. (I do drink diet soda.. but now the studies show that makes you gain more too! ugh cant win!) 

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  • laurensmommy
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    I am 5'5 and weigh 244 lbs.  That's down 16 lbs from last month though!  I'm definitely a plus size scary mommy and can relate to just about everything being said.  Except in my case the weight kept increasing over time.  260 lbs. after my first daughter was born last December was the heaviest I've ever been.  I gained some weight with the pregnancy and only lost half of it and just couldn't get myself to lose thre rest.  It was very frustrating though because I haven't always been overweight and even ran cross country in high school ( I probably weight about 130 back than if memory serves me right).  It's been a hard road but as my daughter crept up on 1 year I realized I was going to be her best example on eating right, etc.  So I finally got motivated, but the big trick this time was admitting I had a problem and asking my family and friends for help.  I have the sweetest husband who would probably never say anything, but telling him how unhappy I was and that I couldn't change by myself has made a big difference.  So I understand everyone's pain but . . . wish me luck, I'm in month two!

  • deviantqueendeviantqueen
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    I'm plus size too. I'm 5'4" and weigh 207. I've been 130 but after I had my dd I got up to 270. Finally after getting rid of the ex I could concentrate on myself and am slowly losing it. I want to be 180 by March.
  • cheshirecheshire
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    @WildandFree @PleaseSendPants @laurensmommy Congrats on losing weight and exercising! That's fucking awesome!

    And the rest of us... we're still fucking awesome no matter what. Like you other ladies said, I don't mind being big I just want to get control of how much I eat. I'm horrible at portion size. And I have a lot of history of heart disease in my family and I would like to be a cantankerous old lady one day :-) I also want my son to have a healthy role model, I don't think men have it as hard as women do but they still suffer from self image issues and if my LO is going to be anything like me he'll be a sensitive little tyke.

     

  • Quietmom
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    @cheshire oh no I didn't mean it as a dig, just that I've been there. I'm 5'5" and after number two in winter 2010 I was 250. By Jan of this year I was 150 and have held steady around that weight (fluctuating up and down 10 lbs here and there... Currently 156) ever since. My goal is back go 130 though by summer. Ill get there. I just eat my feelings lol
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  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
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    @cheshire  MMMMM! Ben and Jerrys. Now I really want ice cream. I think my good intentions may be on holiday right now!
  • GritsGrits
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    I'm another fluffy mommy. I haven't always been this way, but since high school, I have almost always had sedentary jobs. I also couldn't cook for shit when I moved out on my own, so my diet was mostly take out. I didn't realize how big I had gotten until I had to buy my wedding dress. A size 22. Now I hover between 22 & 24, but it sucks so hard. I see pics of me from way back in HS and want to cry. But I have a lot of good things in my life, so I refuse to dwell on it!
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • irishshamrock
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    I'm a big girl too!  I'm 5'7" and weigh 210#.  I hate being this big but I was always small until I had my children.  I never learned how to eat right and am paying for it now.
  • Ads9785Ads9785
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    I'm a big Momma too. I am 5'4.5" and weigh 250. The biggest I've ever been was 276, and that was pregnant. I wear anywhere from a size 20-26 depending on where its from and how its made :/

     

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  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
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    5'7" and 240. I've lost 12lbs since July...and went down a cup size. I think that's where the 12lbs came from. LOL

    I've always been pudgey. My smallest was a size 12/14 8-9th grades. My heaviest, not including pregnancies, was 260+ in college and I was borderline size 22. I'm an 18 now and my goal is to get down to 16 by this July.

    I'm trying to get down to a 12-14 again. Anything smaller and I think I'll look emaciated. LOL I like a little softness to my curves, TYVM. :-)
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  • cheshirecheshire
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    Right now my size is between an 18-20. My favorite size of me is at a 12. And I was a 12 just about two years ago and boy do I miss it. I really want to lose weight but I fail so often at it that its hard to have faith that I CAN do it. Another part of me is getting so frustrated with the yo yo'ing that I want to give up altogether because I know I'll eventually gain again. But I hate that mindset so I try really hard to avoid it. I think I'm a pretty awesome person, I just have a shitty vice that is super obvious to everyone else in the world.
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
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    @chesire I've found it's easier to make the lifestyle changes. If you can get past the first week of each change you decide to make you can do it. I don't cut out the naughty things, I save them as treats. And I never punish myself if I have a bad few days (or shark week. I reserve the right to eat whatever I want when I'm on the rag lol). I just make sure I get back on the horse.

    Did you get to see any of the fitness challenge stuff? A lot of that helped me. I don't know how much of it is still up on the boards, but there was really useful and easy to do suggestions.
    "I don't poop. I create magic."- ABC

    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

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  • RedTiger
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    I'm a plus size too. 5"2 over 250lbs. When I was in high school I weighed about 120-130 and that was just 10 yrs ago. I had my first child at 19 and ended up single parent working multiple jobs and crazy hours so I kinda ended up living on snack food and fast food a lot. When I finally did find a decent paying job it was night shift. I gained weight so quickly. I haven't worked nights in about 6 yrs but Ive never felt like I been able to rest my body clock. I can sleep like a baby between 4am and noon but unfortunately my 2yo is usually up by 7am. At night I'm wide awake and HUNGRY!
    I have a really hard time finding time to exercise because my 2 yo is always under my feet and I cant hardly get anyone to babysit. Told dh when we get our other house finished and moved into that I'm putting her in daycare 2 or 3 days a week so I can go to the gym & (hopefully) keep up the house somewhat so I don't feel like I'm running in circles all the time.
  • cheshirecheshire
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    Being big is tough but it does allow you to see people for who they really are. You know the assholes right away b/c they won't look at you when you first meet them.